…and then suddenly take 1 step back?
This week was interesting as I have been feeling really good, but then some small things cropped up in my life (other people’s bad news and talking about my past bad luck) that brings back some of the black feelings that I used to have. It is amazing how real and sudden those sad depressive feelings can rise up.
To read an email from a woman trying to deal with recurrent miscarriage was incredibly sad for me, and put me in a spin, like I was back in her shoes for a morning. How can we feel for others but then not actually have to ‘feel’ what they are going through? I guess it is part of being a sympathetic, feeling person.
Last week, I heard about a friend’s colleague who is going through a massive breakup (kids involved) as Mr Selfish is off having an affair – and she knew nothing about it. Hearing news like this just makes my heart sink. What an awful thing to have to go through – not nice and not fair. And although I can’t know what she is feeling, I have an understanding of what she is going through.
The grief from broken relationships and other losses doesn’t really disappear, it just gets overwhelmed with other positive things as life continues on. But from what I felt this week, I can see that the grief is still there, just waiting to be drilled into.
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That is SO true, sometimes it sneaks up on us and we discover that the wounds are still raw. BUT it does help to focus on the good things and pull back out and cover that pain back up with the positives again!
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That it does Marti. I also think it reminds us of how far we’ve come. I can have a quiet weep about some sad news and then pull myself together and get on with things. I no longer am wallowing in bed with grief like some Victorian heroine (I do believe there is a place and time for wallowing though – just not right now for me).
I know what you mean. When I hear upsetting news from others, it sticks with me. I can’t help but think how unfair it is that so-and-so should go through something like that, or that it could happen to anyone. I’m sorry to hear about your friend’s breakup with Mr. Selfish, but good riddance. It’s an awful, awful thing to have happen to her, but no one deserves that kind of neglect. The fact that there are children involved makes the entire situation just so unbearable and sad and I wish her peace in her recovery.
I also think the fact that you take these things to heart shows what a caring and considerate friend you are
Your friends are lucky to have you in their lives.
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Thanks Charlotte – agreed about good riddance to Mr Selfish, and what is the bet he comes crawling back at some stage. Ugh.
been thinking about bad luck and bad news a lot this week. Having a major earthquake in one of our cities (Christchurch NZ) gets you in that frame of mind. I look at my house and think – it could have been us. So lucky no one died, but such a terrible amount of damage – and all in a city that wasn’t really thought of as a shaky city! Poor friends down there with the damage to deal with and the days and days of aftershocks. Real trauma.
Weird how some weeks just are full of bad news.