One of the hard things about the sudden ending of a relationship – especially when it involves a third person with an affair – is learning to accept that it has actually happened! To accept that your partner, who last week seemed so wonderful, has been lying and cheating behind your back is hard to come to terms with. In a normal breakup we might have seen the signs that the end of the relationship was coming, but with infidelity, the end of the relationship can come as a shock.
It can also be a shock to discover your darling partner is a cheater and a liar – the relationship was not what you thought it was at all. After finding out about their cheating, to be able to accept it, many of us rewrite our history. We find we need to know what happened – in detail. To others this may seem masochistic but instead it is us trying to find a way to accept our new reality. Don’t be hard on yourself if you find you have this driving need to know, but also understand that you may never know everything. Your cheater is an adept liar and will protect himself and his affair – he will think he is protecting you too by hiding details even now.
A friend wrote to me with advice about accepting a breakup – it is worth reading as well.
If you are worried your partner or spouse is lying and cheating on you – then check out The Breakup Bitch’s latest site about Catching Them Cheating. You don’t have to put up with lies anymore.
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