So you’ve done it. Or he’s done it. Someone’s done it and you’re on your own. Not that it’s sunk in yet that you are single, on your own, footloose, fancy-free, unattached, unencumbered, free to do as you wish. No matter how you name it, it doesn’t feel real. You’re sitting on your bed staring at the wall, with sad bad love songs running through your head.
You are sure you should be doing something, but you can’t quite work out what. You know there are feelings simmering away inside you, but none are reaching beyond the shock you feel. Is it possible that you’ve forgotten how to feel? Your mind is stuck on a loop trying to find ways to fix the problem that is unfixable.
Why do you need to go no contact?
Like withdrawal from a drug, a breakup is withdrawal from a person:
(Breaking up) actually heightens the phenomenon of passionate love in the brain circuits of both men and women. That brain region desperately, hungrily seeks the loved one. Withdrawal – as if weaning from a drug – takes over.
Louann Brizindine, Neuropsychiatrist (from her amazing book The Female Brain)
You will crave your ‘drug’ – your ex. It is normal to think obsessively about your ex as your brain searches to get its ‘fix’ of the love hormones. So you need a plan to keep you on track with your breakup.
You need to get through this one day at a time – so I’m going to take you through it step by step.
If you are struggling with going no contact with your ex, download the free chapter of my new ebook – The Smart Woman’s Breakup Book: ‘Get Him Out of Your Life.’ It gives you lists and exercises to follow to get you prepared to go no contact – and you get to read real-life stories of women and men facing this challenge after a breakup.
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