Comments on: Reader Question: Why Does My Ex Keep Calling Me?

By: salim balkhi

salim balkhi — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 03:00:01 +0000

I know its too hard to forget me but baby i passing threw from the same situation…I feel upset and confused when i don’t see your text and phone calls but what to do you are married now and still calling me that’s not good , now i am in fear…

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 22:02:51 +0000

Jean, thanks for your comment. You are coming from a completely different place and it is interesting to see another point of view. I have to disagree with you though – as I dislike games like these. Any man that doesn’t respect you enough to stay together doesn’t deserve you. I guess if you are quite young and broke up over something small it might be worth trying again. But for a long term relationship? Has the problem gone away that caused the breakup? He broke up with you for a reason – unless he has changed substantially, that problem is still there. Not the kind of guy I’d want to be with long term.

By: Jean

Jean — Tue, 26 Jul 2011 02:07:48 +0000

Nonsense. If he is calling, he is still interested, period. Handle it by making him do all the calling, and then from time to time, don’t take his calls. Be vague. People get back together all the time, and sometimes it takes time. Sometimes it doesn’t happen. There is nothing wrong with playing along; you might end up together for good. The only time I’d advise against this plan is if he was abusive in any way, or hotly jealous and suffocating. If you broke up for petty reasons, you can patch it back together, especially if the love was true.
Take his calls, then don’t. Don’t initiate calls. Eventually he will either s**t or get off the pot. Try to remain cool and of course, if you meet someone better while all of this is going on, the point is moot. Never take his calls again.