I am helping a friend setting up her internet dating profile. She’s been single for a while, and it is time for her to get back out there and meet some men. She is well and truly over her last breakup. We went through and looked at her competition last night, checking out the women who were on the same online dating site in her age-group. We enlisted the help of R the man of the house as well so we could get a male point of view – seeing what guys look for when they are scanning all those profiles.
Here was his feedback:
- The most important thing with your internet dating profile is the photo – men are visual creatures so if you don’t make an effort with a photo you might be missing out. He advised a friendly natural photo, show your teeth when you smile, and not too cropped. Definitely no kids in the photo (not that he is against kids, just the date is about you not the kids) and no other men. Showing more than your face is good too in some of the photos, men do like to see what kind of build you are.
- The first paragraph is most important to hook them, try something that lets your ‘voice’ come through. Get past the ‘I value honesty in relationships’ – of course you do! We all do. Use that paragraph for something more interesting and original.
- Don’t give a detailed list of what you want in a man – they start to feel like they will never measure up! At the most write a paragraph that gives a general description of what you are looking for.
- Definitely don’t give a detailed list of what you don’t want! That comes across as negative. You may have your list instead of writing it down keep it in mind as you email each other.
Good luck!
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