Breakup Advice: No Contact Rule #1

Today we will look at advice about how to go no contact.  You feel lost without your ex, even if you were the one to break it off.  He used to fill your time, so it is natural you want to fill that gap by contacting him.  You need to prepare for this!

There are two areas you need to prepare:

1.  To go no contact, you need to get your ex out of your home.

2.  To go no contact, you need to get your ex out of your habits.

You may not feel like this – in fact you may not feel like doing anything at all!  Enlist some help, get a girlfriend over to start the Ex-Purge off.

So what do you need to do, to prepare for no contact?  We’ll start with preparing your home.

No Contact Checklist: Home

1. Sort out where you are going to live, if you are living together.  I have stayed in the same house with an ex (it was my house so I couldn’t move), as it was Christmas when we broke up and I took pity on him.  He stayed for an extra three weeks and I do not recommend it. It was very hard on both of us and only dragged out the breakup.  Quick and clean is far better!
2. If you don’t live together: search your apartment for his stuff.  Look for everything he might have left at your place and give it back, preferably through a mutual friend rather than in person.
3. Rack your brain for what you left at his place and send him a list.  Ask him to search his place for your stuff and get him to send it back – or ask if you can go over when he isn’t there are search out your stuff.  Leave the key at his place when you go.
4. Remove photos of you as a happy couple from around your
   apartment.  You don’t need to go as far as cut him out of all your
   photos but take them down off the walls and from your bedside table.
   Gather up mementos that remind you of him and pop them in a nice box
   and put it away in the back of your closet.

Next week, we’ll look at what you need to prepare with your habits and actions so you are able to go no contact.

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